From the Tumblr: "Did you always know?"

So, I've started a tumblr account called Render Me Boobless, which is a more focused chest-surgery donation push and general depository for pithy man-boob silliness, as well as a way to thank donors with amusing youtube videos. There's a question/answer function on it I've dubbed "Ask The Transfag," and recently I got a bite. The anonymous asker asked, simply, "Did you always know?" Here's my answer:

Kind of a personal question, but let's just imagine for a moment that you plan to donate plenty of money to the surgery fund to the right of this post, and that I'm willing to shill my unusual psychological development for a few dozen dollars you're my therapist. This is always a question (the question?), and it has variable answers. I was a pretty androgynous child in a lot of ways--yes, I was a Girl Scout and dressed as a fairy princess for Halloween (exactly), but I also loved Legos and action figures and usually preferred shorts to skirts (though I had a pretty serious spandex obsession.) While I definitely--and outwardly--fell into the spectrum of how young girls are expected to behave and appear, I don't think I had the same concept of myself as a girl that other girls had. In playground games of Girls Chase Boys I would generally run alongside the boys cheering them on in getting away from the girls (#storyofmylife.) But I didn't realize in a meaningful way that gender variance existed or was something with a name until later, and didn't start identifying with it until I was 10 or 11, and even then in a fairly rudimentary way. I didn't consider transition or living as male as something that interested me until high school, and I didn't give it serious logistical thought until maybe three or four years ago. So there's really not just the question of "did I always know," but of what it was that I knew, and when.

But perhaps more importantly, how relevant is the answer to this question? I hear the question of how long I've "known" with pretty great frequency, more or less at a dead tie with surgery questions. I think it stems from a fear--and even just a benign, fascinated-unsettled fear--that perhaps anyone can transition, that someone can look entirely normally-gendered one day and then POOF (so to speak), one can wake up a trans person, Orlando-style. Knowing when trans people realize that they are different (and, ideally hearing the "ever since I was a small child" answer) calms this fear. It keeps trans experience neatly separate, and keeps it from infecting the stable and conventional gender identities of others.

Did you always know you weren't trans?